Separation and Divorce Counseling

We Are Separating Or Divorcing, Is There A Healthy Way?

If you are here, you are in the middle of making one of the hardest decisions in life. Ending a relationship is a complex and emotionally charged situation. Navigating the untangling of a marriage is overwhelming, and we are here to help walk through it with you step-by-step, either individually, as a couple or as a family through separation and divorce counseling.

It’s important to understand that separation and divorce are common experiences. Many people go through this process and emerge stronger on the other side. Working with a highly trained therapist can help you navigate this difficult time with greater ease.

Quote: The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is a reaction, both are transformed. Carl Jung

How Will Separation and Divorce Counseling Help Us?

Separation and divorce counseling offers a safe and supportive space to process all of the conflicting and difficult emotions that the end of a relationship brings up. Feelings can change daily from anger to sadness to uncertainty, leaving you feeling overwhelmed, anxious or depressed! It’s important to have a place to deal with these emotions, so that you can make more grounded, responsive decisions versus reactive ones due to distress.

Separation and divorce counseling can involve individual, couples, or family therapy, here is a glimpse at what each can provide:

In individual therapy, you can focus on your personal experiences, emotions, and goals for the future.
Couples counseling can help you navigate the separation or divorce process with minimal conflict and establish a co-parenting plan if applicable.
Family therapy can address the needs of children and help them adjust to the changes in their family structure.

How Does Separation and Divorce Counseling Work?

Research has shown that therapy can be beneficial for individuals going through separation and divorce. Studies have demonstrated that counseling can help reduce stress, improve coping skills, and facilitate healthier communication.

The challenge of divorce and separation provides an opportunity for personal growth and you are in control of what ending your relationship will look moving forward. Our goal is to help you feel empowered and better equipped to handle the challenges ahead, with greater clarity and resilience,, either individually or as a couple.

Take The First Step To Get The Support You Need Today!

Separation and divorce can be a difficult but transformative experience. Our work together can make a significant difference in your overall well-being. Don’t hesitate to reach out, we are ready to help with online sessions anywhere in California or in-person sessions at our office in Danville, California.

More Resources For Separation And Divorce Counseling

Here are some of my blog posts that may be helpful, How To Survive (And Thrive!) After A Breakup and 5 Ways To Know You Have Healed A Broken Heart

What Is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?

EFT is a structured approach to couples therapy developed by Dr. Sue Johnson in the 1980’s. There has been significant empirical research that shows that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvement. For more information on these studies, you can visit www.iceeft.org.

Emotionally Focused Therapy earned the American Psychological Association (APA) gold standard as the most effective evidenced based couples therapy approach currently in the field.

As a Certified EFT Therapist I have met rigorous standards to achieve certification and continually work to hone my skills in couples therapy. I guide my couples through a transformative experience that helps them identify their negative cycle and move from conflict to connection and happiness.

Emotionally Focused Therapy gives couples a road map to follow for the therapeutic process. Together we move through 3 stages of work including:

Identifying and de-escalating your cycle of conflict
Restructuring and deepening your bond by seeing each other and yourself in a new way
Consolidating a new cycle in which you both feel heard, understood and valued in your communication and secure in your relationship

Five Tips for Successful Couples Therapy

You get out of it, what you put into it. Attending sessions on a weekly basis and being open to listening to your partner and expressing yourself are key to success.
What happens in the session, stays in the session. An important part of therapy is talking about hard, challenging subjects. The therapy room should be a safe space to do that, without fear that you or your partner will punish each other after the session is over.
Slow and steady wins the race. Understandably, we want our problems fixed immediately, however therapy is a process. While some immediate relief can be experienced, there are also times that are very uncomfortable and hard. Being patient and allowing the time that is needed for deeper change is important.
Our history impacts our present. While much of couples therapy is spent exploring the current dynamics of your relationship. Some time is also spent exploring each of your individual backgrounds. Our family and old relationships greatly influence our present relationships, and working through those can be very helpful.
Be open with your therapist about how therapy is going. Change often occurs when we are uncomfortable, because that is when we are doing something different. However, feeling uncomfortable often makes us want to flee. Sharing those thoughts and feelings with your therapist is so important, and could lead to a breakthrough.

What to Expect

The first step in getting the life you want is asking for help. I know that can feel hard, but it might be good to know that most people feel a sense of relief after their first session and are much more comfortable than they expected.

Once you contact me, we will set up a 20-minute video consultation so that I can ensure I am a fit for your needs, answer any questions you have, and get you all set on my schedule if we decide to work together.

I will then send you a link to fill out my private practice forms online prior to your appointment. You will have an online portal to manage your schedule, billing and securely communicate with me.

Then, plan to meet weekly for your 50-minute online session. Consistency in attending sessions is the most important factor in making steady progress in your therapy process.

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