Separation and Divorce Counseling
We Are Separating Or Divorcing, Is There A Healthy Way?
If you are here, you are in the middle of making one of the hardest decisions in life. Ending a relationship is a complex and emotionally charged situation. Navigating the untangling of a marriage is overwhelming, and we are here to help walk through it with you step-by-step, either individually, as a couple or as a family through separation and divorce counseling.
It’s important to understand that separation and divorce are common experiences. Many people go through this process and emerge stronger on the other side. Working with a highly trained therapist can help you navigate this difficult time with greater ease.
How Will Separation and Divorce Counseling Help Us?
Separation and divorce counseling offers a safe and supportive space to process all of the conflicting and difficult emotions that the end of a relationship brings up. Feelings can change daily from anger to sadness to uncertainty, leaving you feeling overwhelmed, anxious or depressed! It’s important to have a place to deal with these emotions, so that you can make more grounded, responsive decisions versus reactive ones due to distress.
Separation and divorce counseling can involve individual, couples, or family therapy, here is a glimpse at what each can provide:
- In individual therapy, you can focus on your personal experiences, emotions, and goals for the future.
- Couples counseling can help you navigate the separation or divorce process with minimal conflict and establish a co-parenting plan if applicable.
- Family therapy can address the needs of children and help them adjust to the changes in their family structure.
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How Does Separation and Divorce Counseling Work?
Research has shown that therapy can be beneficial for individuals going through separation and divorce. Studies have demonstrated that counseling can help reduce stress, improve coping skills, and facilitate healthier communication.
The challenge of divorce and separation provides an opportunity for personal growth and you are in control of what ending your relationship will look moving forward. Our goal is to help you feel empowered and better equipped to handle the challenges ahead, with greater clarity and resilience,, either individually or as a couple.
Take The First Step To Get The Support You Need Today!
Separation and divorce can be a difficult but transformative experience. Our work together can make a significant difference in your overall well-being. Don’t hesitate to reach out, we are ready to help with online sessions anywhere in California or in-person sessions at our office in Danville, California.
What Is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?
EFT is a structured approach to couples therapy developed by Dr. Sue Johnson in the 1980’s. There has been significant empirical research that shows that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvement. For more information on these studies, you can visit www.iceeft.org.
EFT earned the American Psychological Association (APA) gold standard as the most effective evidenced based couples therapy approach currently in the field.
A key focus of EFT is on understanding emotions and how we manage and express them. By working with the deeper piece of learning strategies for dealing with emotions more effectively, EFT creates lasting change and healthier more fulfilling relationships.
PERCENT of couples move from distress to recovery
PERCENT of couples show significant improvement
Emotionally Focused Therapy gives couples a road map to follow for the therapeutic process. Together we move through 3 stages of work including:
Stage One
Identifying and de-escalating your cycle of conflict. You will understand exactly where and how you get stuck, allowing you to change course before getting caught in the cycle. Communication is slower and softer with each other and begins to create more trust that conflict can be avoided.
Stage Two
Reconstructing and deepening your bond by seeing each other and yourself in a new way. As we piece together the cycle, you get a new and deeper understanding of each other, this creates a more positive view of your partner and your relationship, which lowers defenses and increases connection.
Stage Three
Consolidating a new cycle in which you both feel heard, understood, and valued and secure in your relationship. We apply your new communication techniques to any residual hurt places or resentments, healing old wounds and increasing confidence in your relationship and each other.
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