Affair Recovery Therapy
An affair does not have to mean the end....with the right support, there is a chance for a new beginning!
Is there hope for a relationship after an affair?
How could this have happened to us? Can we ever recover from this? I am so angry, but I love my partner and don’t want to lose our family. I feel guilt and don’t know how I’ll ever be able to explain this and earn my partner’s trust back. Where do we go from here?
The revelation of an affair is shocking and devastating. The thought of being able to heal and find a way through together often feels impossible and overwhelming. But at the same time, you are bonded with our partner and have created a life together, is it worth throwing all of that away?
Statistics show that about half of relationships are impacted by infidelity, and betrayal can be felt in a variety of ways, ranging from brief contact to emotional affairs to sexual relationships. You are likely feeling lost, conflicted and uncertain – we are here, with the experience needed to help you sort through the aftermath of an affair.
Affair Recovery is Absolutely Possible
It’s important to know that many couples successfully rebuild their lives and relationship after an affair. While the pain of what has happened cannot be avoided, there is an opportunity to create a stronger relationship.
Affair recovery therapy provides a safe and supportive space to process the pain, answer the question of “why”, rebuild trust, develop healthy communication skills and make resolved decisions about the relationship moving forward.
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Will Affair Recovery Therapy Work?
When an affair is revealed, the possibility of saving the relationship can feel very daunting, so It’s understandable to question whether therapy can truly help heal the wounds caused by infidelity. The effectiveness of therapy depends on several factors, including the commitment of both partners, the willingness to engage in the process honestly, and the quality of the therapeutic relationship. While there are no guarantees, many couples report significant improvements in their relationships after undergoing affair recovery therapy.
Our specialized training in affair recovery, using the most effective form of couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, offers a structured approach with the goals of:
- Working through initial emotions including: pain, fear, guilt, shock, sadness
- Together making sense of underlying causes, leading to relief and a deeper understanding of yourself and each other
- Using this new understanding to create a deeper connection and bond
While specific outcome studies on affair recovery therapy may be limited, research consistently supports the benefits of therapy for individuals and couples dealing with relationship challenges. By addressing underlying issues, improving communication, and developing healthy coping mechanisms, therapy can significantly enhance the chances of successful affair recovery.
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Healing and rebuilding are possible after an affair and beginning therapy immediately is key! Waiting to get support, often only complicates the process of recovering.
We can provide the tools and support you need, it just requires you taking the first step of contacting us today to schedule a complimentary 20-minute video consultation to learn more.
We offer online sessions anywhere in California or in-person sessions at our office in Danville, California.
Don't Let Betrayal Destroy Your Relationship
An affair can shatter trust and leave deep emotional wounds. The pain and confusion can feel overwhelming, and the future of your relationship may seem uncertain. However, avoiding affair recovery therapy could hinder your chances of healing and rebuilding.
Affair recovery therapy provides a safe and supportive space to address the complexities of infidelity. A skilled therapist can help you and your partner navigate the emotional turmoil, process the betrayal, and work towards forgiveness. By seeking professional guidance, you can gain valuable insights into the underlying issues that contributed to the affair and develop effective strategies for rebuilding trust.
Many couples who have experienced infidelity worry that their relationship is beyond repair. However, with the right support and commitment, it’s possible to emerge from this crisis stronger than ever. Through therapy, you can learn to communicate openly and honestly, express your emotions, and address any unresolved resentments.
One of the biggest challenges in affair recovery is the intense emotional pain. Therapy can help you manage these emotions, reduce anxiety, and develop healthy coping mechanisms. By working through the trauma together, you can heal the wounds of the past and create a stronger, more resilient relationship.
Don’t let the fear of failure or the stigma associated with infidelity prevent you from seeking help. Remember, seeking therapy is a sign of strength, not weakness. By taking this important step, you’re investing in your relationship’s future and giving yourselves the best chance at a happy and fulfilling life together.
Tips For Dealing With The Immediate Aftermath Of An Affair
The discovery of an affair is a disorienting experience, creating a flurry of conflicting emotions including shock, anger, confusion, fear, guilt and pain, often for both partners. While ending the relationship is often the immediate thought, that is typically much easier said than done. Getting immediate support from a well-trained therapist is an important first step, but getting through those first days can be excruciating. Here are some tips we put together to help:
Shocking news throws you into a fight, flight, or freeze state. Realize your nervous system is activated and your body is likely in “survival mode”. This leads to hyper-vigilance, drastic emotional shifts, and symptoms of anxiety or depression. The first goal is to actively try to slow down your nervous system, some ways include taking a walk, doing a 5-minute body scan, breathing in to the count of 5 and out to the count of 10, and drinking a cold glass of water.
This flurry of emotions is often so painful, it creates a sense of urgency to escape them. This can lead you to take more impulsive actions that are not fully thought out and can hurt you later. Everything has to be figured out step-by-step and a quick resolution is unrealistic. Try to remind yourself to slow down and give yourself space to make more thought out decisions, not urgent and reactive ones.
Be mindful of how much information you share initially. Understandably, anger is often the strongest emotion when discovering an affair, but it can also lead to being destructive, which tends to create regret later on. Posting on social media in a reactive, angry state is one of the things most clients wish they could undo. It’s tempting to vent and get support, but until you have had time to process your feelings, it can also be unhelpful and create more confusion.
Take super good care of yourself, you are going through a lot right now! While it’s tempting to turn to substances, they are depressants and while they may provide temporary relief, they only lead to feeling worse in the end. Getting sleep, exercise, fresh air, loving support and journaling your feelings are the most healthy ways to care for yourself right now.
Keep negative interactions with each other to a minimum. Anger is valid and important to express, however there is a limit to how much is healthy and when it becomes destructive. It is very hard to strike this balance, and why therapeutic support is so important, but be mindful of when these emotions start to feel toxic instead of helpful. Writing them down for yourself can be a helpful way to process and decide what parts you want to communicate in a less reactive way.
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