Couples Communication Therapy

Why do we end up feeling so frustrated when trying to communicate?

The simple answer is that all couples get caught in a cycle, often that cycle creates many stuck points when trying to communicate that leave you feeling frustrated, unheard and disconnected. The longer that cycle plays out, the more the relationship gets negatively impacted, because feeling heard, validated and understood by your partner is the basis for a healthy relationship. Couples communication therapy can help.

The good news is that we have a formula of communication tools to help you stop getting stuck and start understanding each other in a new way. This leaves you feeling confident in your relationship, builds trust and increases connection and intimacy.

Communication Problems Are Common, Not A Sign Of A Bad Relationship

Effective communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. When couples struggle to communicate, it can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and conflict. Poor communication can erode trust, intimacy and overall relationship satisfaction. Continually get stuck in communication pitfalls can also cause you to question the relationship and whether you should be together, despite there be many other parts of the relationship that feel good.

It’s important to recognize that communication challenges are common in relationships. Many couples experience difficulties in expressing their needs, listening actively, or resolving conflicts constructively. We help couples improve communication which is a positive step towards strengthening your bond.

We provide a constructive place, and the tools you need, to iron out those stuck spots and create a new way to communicate together

How Does Couples Communication Therapy Help Us Communicate Better?

We have the tools and the process to help you make communication changes, we just need the consistent commitment to the process from you. We will help slow everything way down and make sense of where you get stuck. Unhealthy communication patterns are often incorporated in life without even realizing it. We call ourselves “process consultants”, we actively organize where things get off track in communication and orchestrate new ways.

If you are wondering if counseling can truly improve your communication. It can! Couples who commit to the process often report significant improvements in their relationship satisfaction and overall well-being. We use the most effective form of couples therapy, studies and research show our method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, works with 90% showing improvement in their communication and a decrease in distress.

The Sooner You Start Working On Communication Challenges The Better, Connect With Us Today!

Investing in your relationship by improving communication is a worthwhile endeavor. Couples communication therapy can provide the tools and support you need to build a stronger, more fulfilling partnership. Don’t let communication challenges continue to put a strain on your relationship, contact us today for online sessions anywhere in California or in person sessions in Danville, California.

More Resources For Couples Communication Therapy

Here are a few of my blog posts you may find helpful,, 5 Healthy Communication Skills for Couples and The Power of Slowing Down in Couples Communication.

What Is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?

EFT is a structured approach to couples therapy developed by Dr. Sue Johnson in the 1980’s. There has been significant empirical research that shows that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvement. For more information on these studies, you can visit www.iceeft.org.

Emotionally Focused Therapy earned the American Psychological Association (APA) gold standard as the most effective evidenced based couples therapy approach currently in the field.

As a Certified EFT Therapist I have met rigorous standards to achieve certification and continually work to hone my skills in couples therapy. I guide my couples through a transformative experience that helps them identify their negative cycle and move from conflict to connection and happiness.

Emotionally Focused Therapy gives couples a road map to follow for the therapeutic process. Together we move through 3 stages of work including:

Identifying and de-escalating your cycle of conflict
Restructuring and deepening your bond by seeing each other and yourself in a new way
Consolidating a new cycle in which you both feel heard, understood and valued in your communication and secure in your relationship

Five Tips for Successful Couples Therapy

You get out of it, what you put into it. Attending sessions on a weekly basis and being open to listening to your partner and expressing yourself are key to success.
What happens in the session, stays in the session. An important part of therapy is talking about hard, challenging subjects. The therapy room should be a safe space to do that, without fear that you or your partner will punish each other after the session is over.
Slow and steady wins the race. Understandably, we want our problems fixed immediately, however therapy is a process. While some immediate relief can be experienced, there are also times that are very uncomfortable and hard. Being patient and allowing the time that is needed for deeper change is important.
Our history impacts our present. While much of couples therapy is spent exploring the current dynamics of your relationship. Some time is also spent exploring each of your individual backgrounds. Our family and old relationships greatly influence our present relationships, and working through those can be very helpful.
Be open with your therapist about how therapy is going. Change often occurs when we are uncomfortable, because that is when we are doing something different. However, feeling uncomfortable often makes us want to flee. Sharing those thoughts and feelings with your therapist is so important, and could lead to a breakthrough.

What to Expect

The first step in getting the life you want is asking for help. I know that can feel hard, but it might be good to know that most people feel a sense of relief after their first session and are much more comfortable than they expected.

Once you contact me, we will set up a 20-minute video consultation so that I can ensure I am a fit for your needs, answer any questions you have, and get you all set on my schedule if we decide to work together.

I will then send you a link to fill out my private practice forms online prior to your appointment. You will have an online portal to manage your schedule, billing and securely communicate with me.

Then, plan to meet weekly for your 50-minute online session. Consistency in attending sessions is the most important factor in making steady progress in your therapy process.

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