If you are struggling in your relationship, there is help….and hope! I specialize in working with couples, using the latest techniques and trainings designed to improve your relationship.
All couples have challenging times, we can use those struggles to learn, grow and strengthen your relationship.
In our work together, we will identify the cycle you and your partner get caught in and find new ways to understand each other and communicate. This process creates increased connection and reduces conflict.
Creating a healthy, happy relationship sets the stage for more satisfaction in all areas of your life.
Have you thought about starting therapy, but haven’t found the time or thought you could work through it on your own? One thing most therapists agree on is that couples wait too long to start therapy. Dealing with relationship issues before anger and resentment build and create deeper or more complex issues is so important. Call me to start creating the relationship you want.
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?
EFT is a structured approach to couples therapy developed by Dr. Sue Johnson in the 1980’s. There has been significant empirical research that shows that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvement. For more information on these studies, you can visit www.iceeft.org.
As an EFT therapist I continually hone my skills in couples therapy with rigorous study, trainings and supervision. I guide my couples through a transformative experience that helps them identify their negative cycle and move from conflict to connection and happiness.
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed”
Five Tips for Successful Couples Therapy
- You get out of it, what you put into it. Attending sessions on a weekly basis and being open to listening to your partner and expressing yourself are key to success.
- What happens in the session, stays in the session. An important part of therapy is talking about hard, challenging subjects. The therapy room should be a safe space to do that, without fear that you or your partner will punish each other after the session is over.
- Slow and steady wins the race. Understandably, we want our problems fixed immediately, however therapy is a process. While some immediate relief can be experienced, there are also times that are very uncomfortable and hard. Being patient and allowing the time that is needed for deeper change is important.
- Our history impacts our present. While much of couples therapy is spent exploring the current dynamics of your relationship. Some time is also spent exploring each of your individual backgrounds. Our family and old relationships greatly influence our present relationships, and working through those can be very helpful.
- Be open with your therapist about how therapy is going. Change often occurs when we are uncomfortable, because that is when we are doing something different. However, feeling uncomfortable often makes us want to flee. Sharing those thoughts and feelings with your therapist is so important, and could lead to a breakthrough.
What to Expect
Once you contact me, I’ll be happy to answer your questions and if you’d like, get you all set on my schedule. I will then send you a link to fill out my private practice forms online prior to your appointment.
The type of therapy I practice is called “psychodynamic,” which means I believe that past relationships and experiences have an impact on your current life. I will be interested to learn more about you and to work together to create a plan so that you can achieve your goals and enjoy more happiness. To read more about my therapy fees, click here.